Faith sustains a pediatric palliative care nurse: ‘God’s hand is always there’

Carmen Molina shares how faith, hope, and a view toward eternity transform the meaning and experience of suffering and that in the end, all that matters for the patient is to love and be loved.

The Child Jesus Children’s Hospital in Madrid is unlike most hospitals. Its waiting room is reminiscent of a theater; in its long corridors, decorated with bright colors, there is a fruit shop, a school, game rooms, an ice cream parlor, and even some bird houses that adorn the main staircase.

At this hospital, which looks like something out of a storybook, medical professionals work to ensure that children can keep smiling despite their illnesses.

This is the case for Carmen Molina, a nurse in the hospital’s pediatric comprehensive palliative care unit, who recently shared her testimony at a gathering organized for Pope Leo XIV’s visit to the Movistar Arena in Madrid.

Sitting near one of the play areas in the hospital, Molina shared with ACI Prensa, the Spanish-language sister service of EWTN News, her experience accompanying seriously ill children and their families through some of the most difficult moments of their lives.

‘God’s hand is always there’

The vocation Molina chose is not an easy one. “There are things that are painful for you, too, when accompanying the patient through this process, knowing there is no option for a cure. But it changes your perspective and the way you care for them,” she said.

Since she first came to the hospital three years ago, she has had to face tough challenges marked “not only by physical exhaustion, but also by the emotional and spiritual pain” of sick children and their families.

Despite the hardships, she said faith sustains her every day and helps her to be aware of her own limitations and fragility. “You find meaning in many of the situations you experience, and you realize that, thank God, a lot of things don’t depend on you personally; that gives you peace of mind.”

“The hand of God is always there — always,” Molina said, convinced that his presence becomes visible in sick children and their loved ones. “Of course, everyone goes through it as best they can, but I see it in the way they face so many things in their day-to-day lives, in the way they look toward the future and ‘normalize’ so many aspects of their situation.”

With extensive experience in palliative care, the nurse pointed out certain recurring patterns among people in the final stage of life. “They want to feel loved and don’t want to be a burden to others. They wish to heal old wounds, ask for forgiveness, be forgiven, or find reconciliation.”

As they find themselves in the final stretch of their lives, Molina noted that many people “seek the meaning of their life” without concerning themselves with material things. Ultimately, she emphasized, “what counts is the love given or not given; that’s what matters at the end of life.”

Recognizing the person as someone unique

She emphasized that palliative care “is necessary for living with peace and dignity” and clarified that “we don’t focus on death, but on life,” so that patients live as well as possible. “What matters is how they live; it’s not so much about how long they will live, but rather how they will live.”

In her view, this is closely linked to the dignity of each person, which “depends neither on the time lived — whether long or short — nor on the health one enjoys or the illness one suffers.”

“Nor does it depend on success,” she added, “nor on the abilities one may possess; rather, it is something so intrinsic and so infinite that we are called to protect, care for, appreciate, and attend to the person in a holistic way.”

The nurse explained that palliative care aims to address every dimension of the person, focusing not only on the physical dimension but also on the emotional, social, and spiritual ones.

“We try not to reduce the person to their illness,” she said, “but rather to recognize that person as a unique individual with a story that deserves respect, someone who has value right up to the very last moment of their life.”

She further noted that hope is indispensable at this stage: “As long as there is hope, there is life and expectation.”

She clarified that it’s not about “the hope of a cure, but the hope of living each day with meaning, being at peace, and saying goodbye properly.”

“If you are at peace with yourself and with others, I believe going to heaven is a joy.”

The cross: A companion in suffering

Molina also pointed out that accepting the illness is a key element: “When you take a step toward transcendence, toward peace, it is palpable, even if it isnʼt fully understood. I have been fortunate enough to witness how the sick person and their family, despite the hardships, experience moments of serenity, peace, intimacy, and inner healing. I believe that hope does not vanish; rather, it changes form.”

Throughout her journey as a palliative care nurse, she has witnessed how many patients and their loved ones have found “strength in faith, in prayer, and in the cross, understood as a companion in suffering.”

Ultimately, she emphasized that what helps the patient most “is knowing that their life matters to others and feeling accompanied by God.”

Drawing on her own experience, she encourages people “not to wait until they are sick to ask themselves about what is truly important and essential: loving and letting yourself be loved. It’s about living a life of integrity and caring for your family, friends, and those around you. Ultimately, life is not measured by success or productivity but by authenticity and love.”

This story was first published by ACI Prensa, the Spanish-language sister service of EWTN News. It has been translated and adapted by EWTN News English.

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